“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This childhood saying can’t be further from the truth. I can remember saying those words often enough and actually believing that it made what the other person said irrelevant. How wrong I was. The body can heal from the physical damage that a rock or stone may inflict. However, the emotional scars that the soul is subjected to can last a life time. Hurtful words are like a little sharp knife slowly making little cuts on different parts of your body. At first you may not feel the sting of the cut. But, after a while all the little cuts start to add up and then real pain will be felt.
We need to be mindful of what we say. I can remember a saying my mother had “if you can’t say nothing nice, don’t say anything at all.” If only many of us took that saying to heart. All too often people allow hurtful, emotional damaging and harsh words spew from their mouths in anger. Take a deep breath, lower your elevation (e.g., sit down) walk away from the situation in order to calm down before you make a statement that you can never take back.
It is true what they say “think before you speak.” If we all learned how to do that we would not have to resort to singing our childhood saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me, just to cover up our emotional pain. Words can hurt. Words do hurt. Stop hurting people with your words.