Everyone Needs Sleep

Everyone needs sleep. Sleep is the time that our body takes to repair all the damaged cells that we have in our body. Without the proper amount of sleep you will not be able to adequately function at work, school, around your kids, family, and or friends. No matter what others may say. No one can survive for long without finding themselves succumbing to our bodies natural need to sleep.

When you become tired make sure you turn off the computer, hang up the phone, turn off the tv and close your eyes to sleep. I do not understand the concept that many Americans have about the need to work as many hours as God created without taking the time to break and rest/sleep. How can you expect to function when working around the clock and not giving your body the sleep it needs to recharge it’s self? Constantly supplying your body with energy drinks in order to keep going is not the solution. Giving your body the sleep it needs is the solution.

Unfortunately, some people are so used and accustomed to depriving their bodies of sleep that they are not even aware that they are sleep deprived. Sleep deprivation can have multiple negative effects on the body and cause a person to make excessive unnecessary mistakes. A person can’t function properly or think effectively when they are exhausted.

Do you find yourself grouchy? Do you have dark circles under your eyes that were never there before? Have you been having headaches? Do you feel off-balance? Does your vision become blurry at times? These may all be signs and symptoms that you are exhausted and your body is craving for sleep. Our body will let us know when it is tired if we only listen to it.

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Being Grateful

As I sit here and watch my family open up their Christmas gifts, I am grateful. I am grateful to have such a loving family. I am thankful for all of the many blessings God has bestowed upon me and my family. Yes. My children do run me ragged at times, but I am grateful for the many opportunities we have together and the multiple experiences we share.

To see the joy on my children faces as they opened their Christmas gifts was priceless and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world. To see my husband’s gratitude for the gifts he received was very special. To see my children smiles as I opened up the gifts they helped their father choose for me was memorable.

I can’t help but to say once again, how grateful I am for the life that I have and for the many mistakes I make. I believe that life is all about learning and growing and how can you learn or grow if you never make any mistakes? I try not to say “God why me” whenever something challenging or bad happens. As my dad told me as a child “why not you.” I try to look at life experiences as a learning process and just another opportunity for me to grow.


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Stay in Your Lane

This past Sunday my pastor delivered a very powerful message. A key thing that I took from his message was to “walk in your specialized field.” As children of God we are considered special to him and he wants us to walk in the specialty he has called us to be. The specialized field that I work in professionally is in human behavior. More specifically I work as a Clinical Social Worker. I often find clients who come to see me for therapy services struggling with the very concept of staying in their lane. I often find many colleagues struggling with the same concept.

One of the things that I often teach my children, is to be themselves in what ever they do and to try not to be someone else or emulate one another. God has called me to walk in my “specialized field” as a Saint of God. It is also expectant that I also stay in my lane as a mother, wife, daughter, and professional. I can only be who I am and try to enhance that which I God has gifted me with, It is when we try to be something that we are not or try to be someone who we are not that we find ourselves lacking and frustrated. If I am running a race and constantly look into the other runners lane, then I am not focusing on staying in my lane or running my race. If I were to run into the other runners lane I would be disqualified from the race. Thus, I must look straight ahead, concentrate, and stay in my lane.

God has called each and everyone of us to be who he has made us to be. It is with his grace and mercy that many of us find peace and joy. It is through his word that we find strength, help, and completeness. It is through the comforter, Jesus Christ that we find happiness and fulfillment. However, if we do not recognize God for who he truly is then we may have a hard time recognizing and accepting who he has called us to be. When you do not know who you are then you run the risk of straying outside of your lane and being exposed to the elements therein.

Try it. Just stay in your lane and except who you are, the good the bad, the ugly and the flawed. Because, God doesn’t make any mistakes and he made you.

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Raising a child with special needs

No one can really understand the struggles, frustrations and concerns that come along with raising a child with special needs–other than the parent of child with special needs. You are constantly trying to make sure that you protect them from all the horrors and ugliness of the world. But, at the same time you are trying to balance, giving them a “normal life” as possible and not treat them as being different.

You find that no matter what you do, there is always going to be someone who is insensitive and will make comments to your child or about your child that is hurtful. How can you effectively shield your child from the hurts that you know are out there? Well, a wise woman once told me “it’s not your job to shield your child from all of life’s hurt, but to minimize them as much as possible and be there for them to offer guidance when they do experience pain.”

You never actually understand the true ugliness and mean spirit of “man,” until you become a parent with a special needs child. It is astounding the way some people teach their children to hate, be mean, and inflict emotional pain and or physical pain on others.

All I can do is love my child with a love so fierce that when he/she goes out into the world, they will never doubt who they are– can turn a blind eye, and a deaf ear to the cruelness out there in the world.

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Words Can Hurt

   “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” This childhood saying can’t be further from the truth. I can remember saying those words often enough and actually believing that it made what the other person said irrelevant. How wrong I was. The body can heal from the physical damage that a rock or stone may inflict. However, the emotional scars that the soul is subjected to can last a life time. Hurtful words are like a little sharp knife slowly making little cuts on different parts of your body. At first you may not feel the sting of the cut. But, after a while all the little cuts start to add up and then real pain will be felt.

   We need to be mindful of what we say. I can remember a saying my mother had “if you can’t say nothing nice, don’t say anything at all.” If only many of us took that saying to heart. All too often people allow hurtful, emotional damaging and harsh words spew from their mouths in anger. Take a deep breath, lower your elevation (e.g., sit down) walk away from the situation in order to calm down before you make a statement that you can never take back.

   It is true what they say “think before you speak.” If we all learned how to do that we would not have to resort to singing our childhood saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me, just to cover up our emotional pain. Words can hurt. Words do hurt. Stop hurting people with your words.

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What if I chose a different path in life?

Have you ever wondered what your life would be like if you had chosen a different path? If you had made different choices in your life? Well, I have pondered those same questions. I think to myself…what if I had chosen to have children later in life, what if I had taken that other job instead, what if I had decided on a different college major. Life can be filled with a lot of what ifs and can hinder some of us from truly moving forward in life. Yes, my life would probably be different had I chosen a different path or made alternative choices. However, I would not be the person I am today had I not made the decisions I made yesterday. The good, the bad and the ugly. I am stronger for all of the trials, tests, and tribulations that I have faced. I am a better person for the joys, thrills and simple events that I have experienced.

Don’t stay locked in the past full of what ifs. Life is too short and full of new possibilities and experiences just waiting for you to take part in. So when I sometimes feel my mind slipping back to the what ifs. I just bring to remembrance how grateful and truly blessed I am, to be the person I am, in this particular time of my life.

So I say to you, STAY IN THE NOW, for you can not change yesterday, nor predict the future. But, today you can learn to enjoy and appreciate the ride you are on

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